Perhaps you feel too exhausted by the daily demands on your time to say.
Even so, you're here because you know there's a question that wants to be asked. Perhaps it's about how you're spending your time. How you're showing up as a leader, a parent, a partner, a daughter, or a friend. What you're striving for. Why you're striving. Why you're here.
Acknowledging that there is a question is your bravest, most powerful first step.
Coaching can be the second.
Coaching is not just about what you want to do and achieve. It's about how you want to show up in the world, who you want to be, and why. Many people go through most of their lives without daring to look these questions in the eye. It takes work and courage to challenge the answers we're already enacting. But I believe it's some of the most important, most beautiful, most creative, and bravest work that any of us can do. I suspect you're here because you're ready.
Individual sessions are typically 60 minutes long. We ideally meet for at least six months to start, and then we decide whether to continue. Some clients I first started working with in early 2020 continue to meet with me to this day.
We meet over video via Zoom or by phone, depending on your preference. Some clients appreciate being able to see me, and to be seen in turn. Others take advantage of an audio-only call to take a respite from their screens. I encourage clients to experiment with both and see what feels most conducive to our work together. While video can offer many helpful cues and feel more personal, there is also research on the real drawbacks of "Zoom fatigue." Sometimes clients find they are able to access more insight and creativity without the distraction of video.
Frequency can vary, depending on what's going on in your life at the moment. For most clients, meeting every other week is a good starting point. Some longer-term clients go through phases, where they might want to meet weekly during a particularly challenging or tumultuous time, and then space sessions out to every three weeks or so when things feel more calm or when they want more time to reflect or experiment in between. I follow your lead, although it's helpful to meet at least once per month to maintain momentum.
There is no single, prescriptive formula or sequence. I tailor each coaching engagement—and each session—to the unique needs and style of each client. But there is a general arc that begins with understanding where you think you are in the arc of your own life, what you really want, and why. We then take a closer look at what's getting in the way and start identifying and testing the specific set of changes, shifts, and actions that move you towards what you want. Before we close, we make sure you have the inner and outer resources you need to continue committing yourself to what you really want.
I am not the right coach for everyone, and not everyone is the right client for me. It's the same for any coach and prospective client. But there will be early hints. Are there elements in my background or experience that you value, whether because they're similar or dissimilar to your own? Does the language or even the imagery on my website appeal to you? (For better or for worse, I wrote every word and selected and placed every image myself.) Do you like my answers to the questions in this FAQ? Do the testimonials reassure you? If not, you already have your answer. If you're intrigued and interested in learning more, I offer a complimentary introductory call to meet and see if we're a good match for each other. (Other coaches might call it a "chemistry call" or a "discovery call.") If things don't work out, know that there is a coach out there for everyone and I'm happy to refer you to other coaches in my network who might be a better fit.